My life is like my name, Karen Marie Herbert, crude, blunt, and strong. In a nutshell, some might call my life a harsh reality, where others might say I’m blessed. I know exactly where I want to go and who I want with me. I can tell almost anyone what they want to know about me, like my favorite color is pink. And how I love the taste of baked macaroni pie with all the right spices, my intense need for organization and perfection, and my passion for writing and teaching. But then there are the things that I can’t quite explain, the things that go unsaid but are understood. Like the relationships in my life that seems so unimportant, and so nonexistent, that I look over their worth. But we need everyone who’s in our lives, like our teachers, advisors, classmates, suitemates, friends, sisters, mentors, because we don’t realize how much they affect us, so we bypass them. I want to shed light on the people in my life that people tend to devalue in theirs. I can show everyone their worth and the roles they play in their communities, and it would also show people how reliant they are on others. I want to help people open up and talk to the people in their lives, and start by saying “Because I need you…” and list all the reasons their role, however big or small, is important.
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About the Author:
Karen H. Class of 2019 Major: Intended - English Minor: Spanish Biology Spring 2016 Blog Theme: Because I Need You
Valentine’s Day is over but that does not mean that love ceases. Monday, February 22 – Friday, February 26, you will be able to show appreciation for the various people in your life who help you to pursue your goals. Project MyStory Blogger, Karen Herbert will be visiting every quad from 5pm-7pm with postcards in hand for you to write your words of thanks. Lee McPeters will also be there on Monday, Wednesday, and Thursday to take “video cards” that we will post on our YouTube page. Think about the people in your life who often go unnoticed and get ready to show them some love!
- Monday, February 22, 5pm-7pm State Quad, Near the Dining Hall
- Tuesday, February 23, 5pm-7pm Alumni Quad, Near the Dining Hall
- Wednesday, February 24, 5pm-7pm Indian Quad, Near the Dining Hall
- Thursday, February 25, 5pm-7pm Colonial Quad, Near the Dining Hall
- Friday, February 26, 5pm-7pm Dutch Quad, Tower Lobby
“It is all a part of life, making small sacrifices for the greater outcome. And it is so hard being away from someone who you love so much, you can literally feel the grip it has around your heart.”
Destiny – Not like the thing that is meant to happen in life. I am talking about the person, not that she was not meant to happen. She was more of an unexpected flash into reality. Destiny is the only seven letter word that could send my heart into a panic at the sound of her cry. She is the only person that I get to see grow from a seed, blossom, and turn into this beautiful flower that I helped create.
It was not always this easy. Imagine that having a little sister would make me so happy and sad all at the same time. For seventeen years, I was the baby and then, in a blink of an eye, I just wasn’t anymore. Of course, I was a little mad, but I never knew the feeling big siblings felt. I would always see my friends and other families go home to be with the little person in their lives. And for the first time, I had my own little person. She was this unique shell that everyone got to see and play with, but I knew all the secrets about her because I was there. I was and am a part of something big. Even when she bothers me, there is this unconditional, parental, best friend, sibling type of love.
I remember there were nights, when she would wake up crying and I would jump out of bed and rush to her crib to soothe her. At first, I actually hated it, mostly because I love sleep and who wouldn’t want all the sleep they could get, but eventually it became a habit and I went to sleep expecting to be awoken. And sure, yeah, I was tired, and grouchy, but then I would look down in my hands, and I would stare at my little tiny person, who did not even know how she was affecting me – how she affects me, both good and bad.
As quickly as she came, I felt like, just as quickly, she was taken away. But I was the one who left. It is all a part of life, making small sacrifices for the greater outcome. And it is so hard being away from someone who you love so much, you can literally feel the grip it has around your heart.
I do not want her to just know of me, I want her to know me, know who I am to her, know the relationship we should have, and know that I am here for her. I am here to listen, to protect her, for anything really. And when I look at her, I just want to tell her this all at once. How could she really understand? How could a two-year old understand how much I need her? And how much she has me wrapped around those little fingers of hers?
It is different when you have someone mirroring you, because then you not only have to think about yourself, but you also have to think about the person who is watching you.
I did not know that going away to college, she would be the person that I missed the most. And that I would even miss her crawling out of the crib at four in the morning and coming to lay next to me, not really falling asleep, but buttering me up so we could go get juice. And that I would miss her running to me after she had done something wrong, because she has that sisterly instinct knowing that I would want to protect her, and save her from getting into trouble.
It is weird admitting that I need my two year old sister. Everyone always thinks that the people we need in our lives has to contribute some huge, spectacular thing. But my little sister, loves me with the purist, sweetest, selfless kind of love, and to me, that is huge, and spectacular, and I need that. I need her to remind me of my responsibility as a big sister, to show me the innocence in the world when I’ve had a rough day, to look up to me and motive me to be even better than I imagine, and to cry and annoy me because that’s what siblings are supposed to do .
I want you, Destiny, to know that I always want you to be with me, if not physically, then in my heart, because I need you.
About the Author:
Karen H. Class of 2019 Major: Intended - English Minor: Spanish Blog Theme: Because I Need You
In high school, I spent years getting to know my guidance counselors, and because of the time we spent together, we grew very close. I knew that I would have an advisor at UAlbany, but I wasn’t really sure of the role he or she was would play in my life. Entering college, I was under the impression that I was selecting my own classes and I had to register for them on my own, so why did I need an advisor? During my first semester at UAlbany, my advisor changed twice before I met Mayra Raxon. I never really went to see the two advisors I had prior to her, because I did not feel like there was much to talk about. For the first semester, I was still feeling out college and that did not include going to see my advisor every week. Other students encouraged me to go see my advisor because they thought it would be helpful for my academics, so eventually I went in. I remember, when I went in to get my AVN (Advisement Verification Number) and to talk about the classes that I had to take, my advisor and I just clicked. Mayra was so welcoming and instantly made me laugh. I never felt like she talked down to me. She always gives me respect and is always seeking my best interest at heart. I always like seeing her because there is never a dull moment when we meet. Continue reading “About My Advisor… I Need Her”
Not a lot of people can stay that they knew a friend all their lives; who they were in diapers with, went to school together – a friend who knows your life almost better than you and who they still talk to on a daily basis. I am fortunate to be one of those people, to have grown up with someone who was there through everything. Her name is Ciara, and she is my cousin, we are so close she might as well be my sister. I cannot say that I have literally been there since day one for her because she is a year older than I am, but she was there for me. Since I cannot remember that far back anyway, I can safely say there is not a memory in my childhood that she was not in. Continue reading “A Friendship that Survives Time and Space”
Entering UAlbany, I knew one of the sources of food on campus was the dining hall. When I first came, I would always go there with my friends because it was nice to see all the new faces on campus. Overtime as it got colder and less people started going outside including myself, it made me realize how tired I was of eating the same thing. The more frequently I went, the more acquainted I became with the staff. Over the course of two semesters, I became on a first-name basis with some of the staff. They would always greet me with a “good morning,” “good afternoon,” or just a general “hello”. When I first meant the dining staff, many of them were welcoming and always had a smile on their face. It would make my day early in the morning when they would say “good morning” because I’m usually tired and grumpy but that does brighten my day and helps motivate me to push through my classes for the next few hours. When I would go in-between classes and I felt like I just wanted to go to my room to take a nap, they would make conversations with me. Often, they would ask about my day and genuinely sound interested in how/what I am doing. They do not ever know what is going on within my day or how I am feeling but they always find a way to make me feel special. Continue reading “Appreciation for @UASAlbany @DiningatUAlbany Staff”
Becoming a part of the Project MyStory experience was an amazing experience. I was able to do a lot of self-reflecting and really focus on the relationships I have with people in my life. I have always been independent and when it came to brainstorming ideas, I would try to figure it out for myself. As I got more involved with Project MyStory and we had our monthly meetings, I felt myself getting more comfortable with my group. I began to see the importance of interacting with others and not being so close-minded because I got to bounce my ideas off of other people. I usually don’t like to because, I like to sit and be focused without distractions. However, I loved sitting and talking with them because even if what I had to say did not really relate, they listened and gave me feedback. They helped me realize, how much more I can do, I just have to put myself forward. And I appreciated Asha, Joe, Lee, Simonti, Kate, and Rachel for being a part of this journey with me. I really hope my readers self-reflect and that I encouraged them to open-up, as I did.
When I planned my events for my theme, ‘Because I Need You’, it was sudden and I had enough time to prepare for it although it was quick. This was the second month of classes and I had not really gotten to talk to my peers and know them on a level outside of ‘work mode’. Honestly, I was struggling a bit, between getting everything together, my job, six classes, and working up the nerve to approach people to talk to them about my event. It touched my heart that my friend, Lee, who I met through Project MyStory, came to my events and he supported me. He didn’t really have to help me, and I was a little shocked, because I wasn’t expecting it. Little does he know, having that bit of support pushed me to do it more, because I was no longer just doing for myself but I was also doing it for all my friends who came out and had my back. I wanted people to know about my event and participate, I just got a little shy, and it felt good to know that he had my back. I will forever consider him a friend, because while I was encouraging others to express how much they needed the people in their lives, I wasn’t even acknowledging the people in mine. I just want to thank you Lee for being there for me and being a good friend, because I need you.
Rachel, oh, she was so amazing and it was a pleasure to work with her for this project. When I first met her, her energy was so positive and I knew that this was going to be a great experience. She really looked at me and from that, I wanted to be a part of a group that she was a leader of, because I felt that she was going to push me. As I hoped, it was true, and it was quite an experience. From the beginning, when I told her about my theme she was as enthusiastic about it as I was, and it was nice to share that excitement with someone. Rachel helped me prepare extensively. With her all her other obligations going on, she made time to help me schedule the tabling, make post cards, come up with decoration ideas for my board and the list just continues. She even came to an event and helped me see what I was doing wrong. I came into this program expecting to better my writing and really help people show their appreciation because this was a rough year. A lot of people walked in and out of my life and it was so unexpected, and I did not realize it could have happened. So I just wanted to give other people a chance, to express their gratitude. I am so grateful that Rachel helped me get involved within the UAlbany campus and opened me to outlet for me to positively deal with my situations. I just want to thank Rachel for believing in me so much that everyone believed in me from the advising office, to UAlbany students. You have really helped carry me throughout this semester, and I am truly thankful, because I need you.
About the Author:
Karen H. Class of 2019 Major: Intended - English Minor: Spanish Blog Theme: Because I Need You
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