Welcome to (young) Adulthood

Freedom is a beautiful thing. It can also be a dangerous thing. Growing up in my household could be suffocating at times. My dad is a hard worker who, because of his job, has seen what real dangers exist in the world, dangers a teenage girl like me never take seriously. Because of this my dad was very protective of me and my siblings, tracking our phones and constantly checking in on us. It made him hard to talk to when all it seemed like he was doing was ruining my fun. My mom went along with whatever my dad decided, often acting as the enforcer of my dad’s rules. It made it hard to experience anything and it definitely made me naïve. Continue reading “Welcome to (young) Adulthood”


Fierce and Freaked

The moment my parents first left me alone in my dorm room to live without them was not as joyful as I thought it was going to be. For months –  scratch that, years, I had been waiting for the day I would leave home and start a new chapter in my life, one without my parent’s rules, free to make my own decisions. Despite this, the moment they closed the door and headed back home, I felt panicked. And that’s where everything begins.

bear-673665_960_720My name is Melissa and I am a Junior at UAlbany. I’m still not sure what I want to do when I leave here and that’s okay. It took me a really long time to realize that it was okay. I am a really social person, something that has changed drastically since high school, so think I’d like to do something where I can talk a lot but that’s about as much of a clue as I have. I have a serious case of wanderlust and dream of traveling the world throughout my whole life. I want to see the most beautiful and exotic places in the world in person and capture that moment with a picture, to always look back and reflect on. I love kittens and anything artsy. I like to paint, write and read. I love to meet new people, eat new food (seriously wish I could dine out every night) and try new things. My biggest goal in life is to be happy with who I am and what I’m doing.

When I first came to college I was a completely different person than who I am now. I grew more as a person in my first year at UAlbany than in all four years in high school. I struggled a lot over these past 2 years and have learned immensely about myself from my experiences. I want to write this blog for people who feel like there falling apart or who feel like everything is just too overwhelming. It’s hard to adjust to life in a new place especially going into it alone. I’m writing this blog to let you know you’re not alone, everyone has been through those moments where you feel like you’re not in control. I want to share how to keep it together, how to be fierce when you feel freaked.

melissa-ferringMelissa F.
Class of 2018
Majors: Spanish & Communication
Blog Theme: Fierce & Freaked

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