Keeping up with Long Distance

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Moving away from home involves a lot more than experiencing a new place, living with new people, and starting a new life. Everything is new but there is some aspect of the old that you want to keep, such as your friendships and relationships back at home. When I moved away I found it to be refreshing that I could easily drop those toxic relationships that were detrimental to my well-being, but it was worse that I could not see the people I truly cared about as often as I wanted to. It was definitely a difficult transition but I learned some tips on how to maintain those relationships when I was away.

  1. Communication

Simple enough, we’ve got to communicate. I know that it’s not the same as face to face but thank goodness we have Face Time and cell phones to communicate with each other. It’s such a blessing that we can call whenever the time is right. Our lives get pretty hectic, but setting aside the time to talk to those you care about is incredibly important.

  1. Share Moments

You don’t always have to set aside a time for a full on phone conversation. Take pictures of those moments that make you happy during your day and send them to your friends and family. Snapchat is perfect for this. Then, when your friends and family have the time, they can respond and enjoy that moment with you.

  1. Embrace Your Tears

It’s evident that when we miss people, we cry, and that’s okay. As long as you cope with the sadness in a healthy manner, this can only make your relationships stronger because it shows that you care. To cope, try joining a group on campus and having a support group. Go to the Counseling and Psychological services or call the Middle Earth Hotline. Write out your feelings or sing a sad song. This can only strengthen your relationships.

  1. Always Have Your Next Get-Together Planned

We have weekends and breaks during the semester for a reason, so we can go home! Mark it on your calendar and plan out who you are going to see as soon as you get home and what you are going to do with them. This can lessen that tensed feeling you get when you don’t see someone for a long period of time.

  1. Keep Yourself Busy

I know this may sound like a step back from maintaining a long distance relationship but when you’re busy and your people back at home are busy, there will be less worry on your shoulders when you send a text and don’t get a response right away. It can also keep you moving in that direction you are headed in, the reason you did move away.

The most amazing thing about long distance is that when you have this space between you and your circle of friends back at home, you begin to realize who is really there for you and who is not. You’ll begin to see who contributes to that effort you’re putting out to stay in contact and who isn’t. You may even find yourself not wanting to contribute to a previous relationship when you move away and meet new people. This change is good, because you are discovering who you are and what you want in your life. As for the people you’re missing right now, they want to see you succeed as much as you do. So stick it out for them and for you. You are a strong individual and you’ve got this down.


Please Note: The views of our student bloggers do not necessarily reflect the views of the UAlbany Advisement Services Center. These are their stories  – their voices.
About the Author:
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Elizabeth B.
Class of 2018
Major: Communication
Minor: Art
Blog Theme: Homebody for Everybody
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Grieving While Pursuing Your Dreams

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This is not an easy subject to talk about, but it is a subject that I think people just need to hear about sometimes to know that they are not alone. I lost my grandmother to Alzheimer’s just this past summer and, believe me, it is still a day to day struggle. I have been experiencing the holidays without her and it still bothers me that she will never see me graduate. I went through a lot to maintain my grades and keep up a steady performance but I did it, and I am glad I did. Continue reading “Grieving While Pursuing Your Dreams”

Is Isolation Good for You?

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If you are someone like me, you are probably a person who really enjoys time alone and solace. My favorite season is winter because the world comes to a pause and all I have to think about is the silence that falls upon the world. To some people, this may be an odd thought. Being alone or wanting to be alone sounds depressive and out of the ordinary. We grow up in a world where you are expected to learn how to work with others and communicate. This is probably why I became a Communications major. Continue reading “Is Isolation Good for You?”

Getting through Seasonal Depression

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The days are shorter, the nights are longer, and the air is colder. Luckily for most of winter we were home and with our families, but we did have to go through, at least a month of the dreary cold season while in school, and if you have seasonal depression, that short time probably seemed like a year. It did not help that finals came at that time.

I am proof that you can get through this. Once winter hits, I lose a lot of motivation. I hide in my room a lot more often and my overwhelming need to be alone is increased. However, throughout my experience, I have found ways to cope with this seasonal depression. Continue reading “Getting through Seasonal Depression”

The Culture Clash

culture-clashWelcome to UAlbany! I know people say NYC is a melting pot but I personally believe UAlbany is even more so. No one really has the opportunity to stay within their own exclusive group, we are all together here. This is one of the things I was most excited for when I moved here for school. I grew up in a small county where diversity was not all that prevalent, and when there was some diversity, people stuck to their own groups and didn’t really explore outside of them. I was itching to explore though. I was kind of sick and tired of hearing the same streamlined thoughts over and over again.

summer-still-life-785231_960_720As soon as I moved to Albany, I was introduced to all sorts of different cultures. There were religions I had never heard of before or even bothered to explore. There were plenty more liberals and points of views than I was used to hearing. There was music I had never heard of before and dance moves I had only seen on the television. Right now, you must think I’m crazy and live under a rock, but I can promise you, this perspective is flipped around. When I met my new friends from the city, they were shocked at the  stories of how I lived. They wondered how I got by with minimal internet or no public transportation. They wondered why the closest dance club was a 45-minute drive away. To be honest, it was rather hilarious. Continue reading “The Culture Clash”

7 Things to Consider Before Taking an Online Course

tumblr_inline_n539lar5vw1sbz7phLike most others who consider themselves to be homebodies, you may have this strong inclination to take an online course. I don’t blame you, I as well have had and still do have this strong inclination. I’ve taken a couple online courses before and I am choosing to take a couple over this winter break. I’ve learned a lot from taking my online courses before and now believe that I’ve got a good handle on it. So here are a few things to consider before taking an online course. Continue reading “7 Things to Consider Before Taking an Online Course”

3 Research Papers & 5 Final Exams: No Partridge and a Pear Tree for Me

rock-partridge-50362_960_720It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas! Happy Holidays everyone (If you celebrate any)! And happy… finals! Yep, that’s right. On the first day of Christmas my prfinalsofessor gave to me 3 research papers and 5 final exams. It can be overwhelming. The holidays aren’t the same anymore in college. No time for putting up the Christmas tree with the family or eating a feast that could feed an army. You’ve got finals on the way.

It can seem pretty dreary and it can be hard to stay focused when all you want to do is drink hot cocoa in front of a fire place. As a senior I’ve learned some tips and tricks on how to stay focused during this trying time, with room for holiday fun. Continue reading “3 Research Papers & 5 Final Exams: No Partridge and a Pear Tree for Me”

WHY IT’S OKAY TO MOVE BACK HOME: It’s not over yet

So, you’ve been here for a substantial amount of time. You’ve made friends, joined a couple clubs, gotten through your classes… everything should feel fine, but something is still missing. It’s not home. And maybe it will never be. That’s okay.

I moved to Albany just last Spring. I moved into the apartments on campus, I made friends and now live with them, I joined a couple clubs, had an internship, did some community service… a lot of people could say that I’m successful here. But believe it or not, this isn’t what I want. Don’t get me wrong. I love this school and everything about it, but moving here for school definitely helped me realize something. I love my hometown. I’m homesick for my hometown. I don’t necessarily miss living with my family. Believe me, the extra space in my own apartment is nice, but I miss the environment of my hometown. Continue reading “WHY IT’S OKAY TO MOVE BACK HOME: It’s not over yet”

When Home Becomes a Vacation

     Thanksgiving break is soon to come and thank goodness to that. Time to go home for a long weekend and reunite with your family and bed. You’ll finally get the room to yourself, you’ll have a home-cooked meal, and all will be grand. This is when you realize home becomes a vacation.

When you’re at school you are constantly working. Living at your school can be a stressful environment. It can feel as though there is no escape from these papers and exams. When you once wanted to leave home to escape the rules of your household, you now see home as a vacation spot. A place where you don’t have to do school work and you can go back to your part-time job. A place that is familiar and well-known. A place where you can finally sleep in! Continue reading “When Home Becomes a Vacation”

HOMESICKNESS: How to Manage a Home away from Home

As we merge our way closer and closer to October, more and more students are going to be feeling the effects of homesickness; the emotional bug which can make you feel sick to your stomach by the thought of not seeing the walls of your bedroom at home. I get it. I was there.

Before transferring here, I went to a community college which I commuted to. I never really ventured far from my home aside from a few family trips here and there. Living on my own was a whole other situation. I didn’t know anyone and no one knew me. That is possibly one of the most terrifying situations to be in, when you don’t have anyone within tangible reach to back you up. Continue reading “HOMESICKNESS: How to Manage a Home away from Home”