Life is a Journey not a Destination

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Kayla looks back on her life and she has some lessons that she wants to share with you before she graduates. Her guiding theme last Fall was “Let God Take the Wheel.” This was not her theme because she was particularly religious, but this theme resonated with her because it spoke to how she learned the hard way about the many things were outside of her control, and about those things that were in her control which she may have taken for granted.  Click Here for Kayla’s Past Posts.

As a child I grew up in reverse.  I allowed my parent’s lifestyle to guide mine.  Their lifestyle was and is the family business, so I allowed my lifestyle to be structured around the family business.  Their lifestyle was taking care of their parents, so I allowed my lifestyle to be structured around helping take care of my grandparents.  Their social life lacked, so I allowed my social life to lack.  I was a child, and now as a young adult reflecting, I have learned and I want to share:

1) Lead your own lifestyle.
2) Take care of yourself: eat healthy, exercise, and go to the doctor.
3) Think about the type of social life you want/would want.

I decided to get my feet wet early.  As a child, watching my parents work influenced me to want to work.  My first job, as a cashier, was what I thought would be my last job.  What had been a constant routine, helping take care of my grandparents, was what I thought would be my lifelong career.  What had been a lacking social life was what I thought would be a permanent problem.  Apparently, it was time for a wake up call.  I have learned and I want to share:

1) Do not limit yourself to one job .
2) Take some time to really explore different fields.
3) Find someone who is similar to you.

Once I got my feet wet, next was to get soaked.  I had worked so hard to keep a job where I thought I could move up.  I had worked so hard to prepare for what I thought would be my lifelong career and I worked so hard to only realize that I was not having any fun.  I got a big smack in the face; another wake up call, and from that smack in the face I learned and I want to share:

1) A dead end means getting back up to move forward; try a different job .
2) Find what interests YOU to move forward; take classes from a variety of majors.
3) When you feel overworked,  move forward, have some fun, and then try again.  

Getting soaked helped me move forward. After trials of different tasks at my family’s business, I moved forward to another job.  After trials of preparing for becoming a nurse, I moved forward to UAlbany and enrolled in different classes from a variety of majors.  After trials of all working and no playing, I moved forward by accepting to enjoy the fun in life.  From finding ways to move forward, I have learned and I want to share:

1) New experiences and new relationships come with a new job
2) Changing your environment and learning new concepts can help redefine your interests.
3) Accepting and having fun is one of the best ways to keep moving forward.  

Life is a challenge.  For any UAlbany student who is reading this, do not give up.  If you appreciate the lessons I have learned and shared, please use them to your advantage. Know you are not alone at this time in your life. Lead your own lifestyle, get some experience (learn from it), work hard, and keep moving forward.  Whenever you feel uncertain, stressed, or anxious: stop, step back and. . .

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Here are some tools that may help you to move forward:

Academic and Career Tools:

Personal Growth 


Please Note: The views of our student bloggers do not necessarily reflect the views of the UAlbany Advisement Services Center. These are their stories and their voices.
About the Author:

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Kayla K. 
Class of 2018 | Transfer
Major: Psychology
Minor: Business
Past Blog Theme:
Let God Take the Wheel

MyStory Mondays 10-9-17 It is #TransferStudentWeek!

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MyStory Mondays is a weekly digest of our latest posts.

Our UAlbany MyStory Bloggers share their lives with you to help you to stay focused on your goals, to remind and inform you about the many supports that we have on campus to help you succeed, and to let you know that, whatever you are going through, you are not alone. 

This week, get ready to dance, write, be in suspense, and to focus on being more focused.

We are featuring some of our older stories from our, current and former, UAlbany Transfers in celebration of the First National Transfer Student Week.

 

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“You feel all over the place, you get tired and stop working as efficiently as you could. You are using up energy you could be using to achieve your goals.” 

bokeh-2552956_960_720UAlbany transfer student, Heather talks about the difficulties of staying focused and how mastering the mountain of distraction has helped her to overcome the naysayers, academic hurdles, and more.  Click here to check out her latest post.


Every one of our transfer students has a unique story of how they became a Great Dane. This week, Kayla, who is thriving at UAlbany, takes us through the first part of her journey here, through a time when things were not going so well. Click here to read Soaked: Breakdown to Breakthrough Pt. 1.


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Lee MUAlbany graduate and transfer student, Lee McPeters, shares how he really struggled to succeed academically. Click here to check out his series: Struggling on the Pathway to Success – Thoughts of C Average Student.

“When I transferred to UAlbany, the almost 360 degree change was overwhelming. Classes were now much larger, and I had to start fresh and make new friends and mentors. With this change, I started to retreat inward and the pattern of self-sabotage started.” 

His story does not end there!


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This week, our “Resolutionary” bloggers Simonti and Anik write about two very different resolutions. Anik shared how he is resolved to love writing. He used to hate writing, so anything less than hate is progress right? Click here to check out his transition from being a person who hates writing to someone who tolerates it with a smile. In case you were wondering, yes, our blogger hates writing. We thing that he is doing a social experiment on himself through MyStory.

Simonti’s blog is musical. Get ready to dance to Hindi music and smell the good food through her writing. She shared how she learned to embrace her culture on her own time. Click here for more.


Finally the New York State Writers Institute has prepared an incredible series: Telling the Truth in a Post-truth WorldA multi-event symposium of topics crucial to an open democratic society. Talk about stories! Check out their program.

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Soaked: Breakdown to Breakthrough Part I

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Working for my family’s business was my first real job.  It was flexible and an opportunity for me to get some work experience, develop my communication skills, and it was an opportunity for me to learn the basic foundations of working in the world of retail.  New Visions forced me to adapt in ways that were unfamiliar to me. It forced me to throw myself into chaotic environments and allowed me to explore a field I thought I wanted to be part of.     Continue reading “Soaked: Breakdown to Breakthrough Part I”

Growth in Reverse

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One might be thinking what I mean by “Growth in Reverse.”  Unlike other children, I recall growing up learning how to face challenges that are to be faced during adulthood – challenges related to finance, health, career, and more.

Born, August 18th, 1995 into a hardworking, motivated and successful family.  My grandparents had their own business. My father and mother had only been married for a couple of years, and were working together making safety glasses out of the basement of my grandparents’ house.  My brother who is 6 years older than I had just been finishing up elementary school, but, while being a boy, was thinking about a career during his spare time.  This is just the beginning and a summation of what started my growth in reverse. Continue reading “Growth in Reverse”

Transfer Tuesdays VI

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Our Next Transfer Advisement Day is Tuesday, August 1.
Will You Be There?


9a42c81259d79d0ceaea80c392c3cf4aWelcome to UAlbany!

As you are preparing to begin the next leg of your academic journey here, we want to share some useful and fun information to help you transition to your new educational home.

Every Tuesday, we will share one or two personal stories from our transfer students, along with information from advisors that we think would be helpful. 

It is always a great day to be a Great Dane!
The Advisement Services Center Team


Make sure to check out the Welcome Page. The Welcome Page has information about housing, registration, health forms, billing and more. Please MAKE SURE to submit all of your health information before August 1.


Are YOU Coming to one of our Transfer Advising Days?
June 20 | August 1 | August 22 | August 24
If not, you may miss out on the
August 25 Transfer Orientation!

This does not apply if you have already
connected 
with your academic advisor
and have made your schedule.


Christie Project MyStory 2015

Christie Allen
Transfer Student
BSW – Class of 2014
MSW – Class of 2015
Major: Social Welfare

I left my first career in the corporate world to pursue my dream of becoming a social worker. Social work offers a depth and breadth of experience that many other careers can’t offer. I care deeply about the well-being of others and as a professional social worker, I can be utilized as a change agent to make a difference in another person’s life.

As a returning adult student, it isn’t easy to manage a family, finances, and college. My family supported my journey back to college and encouraged me to relentlessly pursue my dream of becoming a social worker.  I am grateful for their support but also the financial sacrifice that they were willing to make to help me achieve my educational goals.

I was overwhelmed when I first came to UAlbany. I didn’t know how to navigate the services available here. The university is rich with resources! I strongly encourage you to meet with your advisor and ask questions. They will strive to help you. I know that when I felt overwhelmed, I went and spoke with my advisor and she was a light in the fog! She listened, cared, and provided contact information for people who were relevant to my success at the university. I couldn’t have done it without her!

If you are a student who struggling, first take a deep breath and say to yourself, “I am not alone.”  UAlbany is committed to helping all students achieve academic and personal success. Don’t hesitate to meet with your advisor. They are here to help you. Your education is your responsibility. Own it! If you need help don’t be afraid to say so. I encourage you to reach out to other students and form study groups. If you are struggling, you may want to utilize the Counseling Center. There are counselors available to help you navigate your difficulties and bring back hope!

I would recommend that new students research services and resources available at UAlbany before you start classes. Before I started my first semester, I explored the Uptown Campus. I strongly recommend that you know how to navigate the campus. Know where you are going before your first day of class so that you feel more confident navigating around the college and can relax and enjoy your college experience. Remember to utilize your instructor’s office hours; they want to help you be successful. Remember, this is your educational experience. You must take ownership of it. Talk to people, ask questions, and embrace your learning. College isn’t easy but it is worth it. Remember, never ever give up. You will be graduating before you know it!

Transfer Tuesdays V

TODAY is Transfer Advisement Day! 

WELCOME TO UALBANY

If you are here, please comment below and say, “Hello!”


9a42c81259d79d0ceaea80c392c3cf4aWelcome to UAlbany!

As you are preparing to begin the next leg of your academic journey here, we want to share some useful and fun information to help you transition to your new educational home.

Every Tuesday, we will share one or two personal stories from our transfer students, along with information from advisors that we think would be helpful. 

It is always a great day to be a Great Dane!
The Advisement Services Center Team


Make sure to check out the Welcome Page. The Welcome Page has information about housing, registration, health forms, billing and more. Please MAKE SURE to submit all of your health information before August 1.


Last week, we introduced Jeniva Austin, a Transfer Transition Leader and one of our former MyStory Volunteers. Here is part II of her story:

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The social aspect of college is something people try to make seem unimportant but it plays a bigger role than people like to admit. It is not easy being a new student on campus, and it is even harder being a new student, and going to a school where you do not already have friends. College is not like high school where there may be maybe  just over one hundred students in your grade. It is more like thousands depending on what college you decide to attend. And being a transfer student definitely makes entering a new school so much more complicated. You are not THE new kid but you become just another new kid. Like myself…

As a transfer student, there is a great chance you will be place on Alumni quad. And if you have friends like mine, then you will hear that it really sucks to have to live “off campus.” But what students who are not transfers do not know is that, although Alumni quad is filled with transfer students, and about 10-12 minutes away from the main campus, Alumni quad is for students like me – students like us!  It is for students who come into a school with few  or no friends and not really sure how to get involved. On Alumni quad, they build a community for the transfer student population, and from what I know now, a lot of incoming transfers tend to enjoy living there.

When I first transferred to the University at Albany, I was so excited to have been placed on colonial quad. That meant that I did not have to worry about traveling to the main campus in the morning for class, and I didn’t have to worry about how I would get to take my mini-naps in-between classes. But along with all the pros of living in the main campus quads, there came cons. I was placed in a suite where one triple-room was filled with friends who knew each other from back home, and a roommate who had friends and plans of her own. So as anyone would, I got lonely and kind of annoyed with not having people to go to different events with. This lead to me going home every weekend and a pretty empty bank account due to all of those Trailways tickets I had to buy in order to go back and forth. And let me not forget that, because I usually didn’t have someone to go to the dining hall with, I ordered out VERY often during the week. So my first semester at UAlbany was not the best, but being able to realize that I wanted to be involved, helped me make my spring semester so much more worth transferring here.

In the spring, I got hired as a resident assistant and managed to make a few friends and even go out with people, I would not, normally, hang with on a regular day. I stopped going home every weekend and started to enjoy being in Albany more. I  even applied to be a Transfer Transition Leader (TTL), and got the job! A TTL is a resource for transfers, helping them adjust to socially and academically to the university. Many people asked why I wanted to be a TTL, since I was not an active transfer student during my first semester, but I believe that I could be of help to new incoming transfers that could resonate with me and my story.


Are YOU Coming to one of our Transfer Advising Days?
June 20 | August 1 | August 22 | August 24
If not, you may miss out on the
August 25 Transfer Orientation!

This does not apply if you have already
connected 
with your academic advisor
and have made your schedule.


Click Here for the 2017
Transfer Orientation Guidebook

Transfer Tuesdays IV

Our Next Transfer Advisement Day is Tuesday, June 20. Will You Be There?


9a42c81259d79d0ceaea80c392c3cf4aWelcome to UAlbany!

As you are preparing to begin the next leg of your academic journey here, we want to share some useful and fun information to help you transition to your new educational home.

Every Tuesday, we will share one or two personal stories from our transfer students, along with information from advisors that we think would be helpful. 

It is always a great day to be a Great Dane!
The Advisement Services Center Team


Make sure to check out the Welcome Page. The Welcome Page has information about housing, registration, health forms, billing and more. Please MAKE SURE to submit all of your health information before August 1.


Meet Jeniva Austin

jeniva-austin-1.jpgJeniva volunteered for Project MyStory in Spring 2017 and she is currently a Transfer Transition Leader. This is Part I of her story:

When I got accepted to the University at Albany, I knew things would be different. Transferring from a community college where everyone knew each other, even if they were not friends; having no lecture halls, more one-on-one time with professors, and a smaller environment, were all things things that I knew would change with my big step into university life. But there were some things I had not realized would happen.

When I first arrived at UAlbany, I was nervous, but I did not want my mom to know. She’s the ‘okay pack your things up, you can just go to school back home’ kind of parent. But I wanted to step out of my comfort zone, and I was not going to let a little anxiety change that. So when it came time to go to class, I made sure to sit somewhere in-between the first three rows. Second row… third seat to be exact. It was my birth date,  2/3, so I never forgot my unassigned, “assigned” seat. I decided that no matter how hard I thought a class was, I would do everything in my power to pass.  I was not going to let the title “university” scare me into thinking that I did not have what it took to succeed. But you see, when I got accepted to the university, the week before classes began, I was placed on a sophomore quad. So that ultimately left me out of the loop when it came to transfer events, which lead to me not attended any transfer events… not even our orientation. While most transfers were gathering to hear all about the resources and cool things the university has for them, I was making my schedule.

Are YOU Coming to one of our Transfer Advising Days?
June 20 | August 1 | August 22 | August 24
If not, you may miss out on the
August 25 Transfer Orientation!

This does not apply if you have already
connected 
with your academic advisor
and have made your schedule.

 

Meeting Rachel Moody, my academic advisor, goes down as one of the coolest days here at UAlbany. She was upbeat, honest, and very passionate about helping me figure everything out. That quickly changed to the worst day I had at the university, the moment she pulled out my degree audit and told me that I was not graduating in two years, like I had planned to. She started asking me questions like, why did I come to UAlbany? Why did I want to study psychology? What was the rush on graduating? And what other fields could I see myself in? These were all questions I thought I knew the answers to, up until I was sitting in front of her. After my meeting with her I was done before I had even started and wanted nothing more than to figure out how I would get the credits I needed to graduate in May 2018. I told myself that I was going take the regular 15 credits my first semester, and start to add extra classes to my schedule every semester after that… Boy did I lie to myself.

Somehow I managed to make it through the fall semester with a few ups and downs in my classes, maybe only four weekends spent here in Albany… and oh, I became a resident assistant. So there I was, in the spring semester: a new RA and only taking twelve credits. So, not only did I not take the extra classes I said I would when I first got here, but I was taking less. My mom was so excited that I got the RA position, she ignored the fact that I was now another three credits behind.

I know a lot of you are probably wondering how this story ties back to me being a transfer student… but it does. The moment I decided to schedule my classes at Transfer Orientation, the Friday before classes began, was the moment, I unknowingly missed everything Orientation had to offer. It was the day I slipped into the group of many transfer students who know nothing about anything the university has to offer us.  I was not connected on the UAlbany Transfers Facebook Page to let me know what I was missing. That page was not even created until last Spring. I had slipped through the cracks and I was lost. Coming into the university as a second, semester sophomore instead of a junior, is the day that I became a story that many other transfer students are able to resonate with. Now, I am in a position to help incoming transfer students, just like me. I am working hard to reach the goals I set for myself the first day I stepped onto this campus, because being a transfer did not break me as a student but made me a stronger one.

Click Here for the 2017
Transfer Orientation Guidebook


Next week, Jeniva will share the second part of her story. She will talk about housing, getting connected and more. Stay tuned!