MyStory Mondays 10-2-17


MyStory Mondays is a weekly digest of our latest posts.

Our UAlbany MyStory Bloggers share their lives with you to help you to stay focused on your goals, to remind and inform you about the many supports that we have on campus to help you succeed, and to let you know that, whatever you are going through, you are not alone. 

bodybuilder-646482_960_720.jpgIs there a goal that you have set for yourself, that you have failed to meet over and over again? What happened to it? Anik writes about his repeated failure to meet his health goals. He did not give up on himself. Eventually, with the support of his friends, he was able to fulfill his resolutions.

Click here to check out Anik’s post.


Simonti writes about her difficulty with change, and how she is slowly learning to appreciate the power of adaptation. Click here to read her post.

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mountain-2565372_960_720.jpgHeather writes about how focusing on the many little wins helps one to deal with their failures, no matter how huge those failures might be.

If you pay attention to all your little wins throughout the day, it is easier to deal with the losses when they happen. And they will happen. And you will fixate on them. You are going to feel the loss way more intensely than the win. So, that being said, each little win needs to count. You need them to stay strong. You need at least 5 little wins for every loss. They are your backup. They are your soldiers marching behind you. Click here to read more.

barefoot-1835661_960_720How does one find their passion? Kayla shares the beginning of her search. Click here for more. 




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Getting My Feet Wet


I was raised by a hard working, motivating, and humble family.  My grandparents  started a business geared toward outdoor enthusiasts.  Shortly after, my father started his own business. When both grandparents fell ill, my family worked hard to maintain both businesses. This was a long period of great stress. Through all of this, I had to get through elementary, middle, and high school.  My social life was lacking. I did not fit in with my peers, and while I was involved in extracurricular activities, I still struggled with answering the question of, “What is my passion?” Continue reading “Getting My Feet Wet”

It’s About the Little Wins



College can be an incredibly tumultuous time for people, filled with high highs and low lows. The school year can be so stressful. Between homework, studying for tests, working, going to class, and having a social life; it is hard to remain sane. Although it is important to keep your grades up and remain diligent, you also have to keep your mental and emotional well-being in check. This is way easier said, than done. Continue reading “It’s About the Little Wins”

Cha Cha Changes


If adaptability is key to human evolution, I am surprised I made it this far.

I seemed to have always had an issue with adapting to my surroundings or change. Either I never fully adapt or it takes me forever to successfully adjust. In fact, my Project MyStory blog from last year was all about my time adapting to moving out of Queens, New York to Albany, New York the summer before freshman year. It is incredible how much I let that transition affect my mental and physical health, which then, affected my academic performance tremendously. Since finishing that semester and since completing my blogs, I made a little mental note to myself to figure out what works and does not, in order to help face newness without fear.  And in case you were wondering, I would not say that I am fully adapted to living in Albany yet, even though I have been here for almost three years. Continue reading “Cha Cha Changes”

MyStory Mondays are Back Again!


MyStory Mondays is a weekly digest of our latest posts.

Our UAlbany MyStory Bloggers share their lives with you to help you to stay focused on your goals, to remind and inform you about the many supports that we have on campus to help you succeed, and to let you know that, whatever you are going through, you are not alone. 

“Even though I always tried, I had no confidence in my own abilities. I was convinced that my brain was broken.”  – Heather M.


Heather’s blog series, One Life’s Potential, addresses the negative voices that we, sometimes, allow to build a nest in our heads, hindering us from doing our best. She urges us not to let a garbage pile of negativity blind us to our true potential. Click here to check out her latest post.


Liz is completing her degree in abstentia and will graduate in May. Although she is not with us, physically, Liz has left us several posts to share. Her theme was Homebody for Everybody, in which she gave us a glimpse of her life as a very introverted, yet highly involved person. In her latest installment, she gives five suggestions on how to maintain long-distance relationships and on how to let them go. Click here to read more.

kerry-debruceKerry graduated last May, and is currently a graduate student at UAlbany. Last spring, her blog series, Pulled Back to Move Forward, focused on grief, loss, healing, and self-care. After reading some of her series, several students made the decision to seek help in addressing their diverse losses. Words have power.

This week, Kerry writes about how difficult it was to decide on what to do after graduation, and how she, eventually came to the best decision for her. Check out her latest piece here.


Simonti and Anik are both writing separate pieces under the same theme, “Resolutionary.”  Using the idea of making New Year’s resolutions, they focus on how the pressure to change your habits, attitude, or your heart, can be a significant hurdle. They share their experiences in how they have made changes that have allowed them to succeed and to grow.  Click here to see how, you too can become “resolutionary!”


Kayla’s series, Let God take the Wheel, focuses on how she has learned to be less of a perfectionist so that she can appreciate where she is in the here and now. This is her final year here and she has much to say about letting go. Click here to check out her latest post. 

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What Happens When You Let Other People Tell You Who You Are?

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I heard it, I felt it, and then I took ownership of it.
The label was my enemy, and my scapegoat.

When I was in fourth grade, I was called dumb for the first time by a classmate. I was called dumb because fourth grade was the first year I was put into a reading help class. I could not read as fast or as well as the other kids. I specifically remember sitting in class one day during reading time and looking over to see the girl next to me reading Harry Potter and then looking, shamefully, back down at my Junie B. Jones book. I could not even fathom trying to read a Harry Potter book. Harry Potter looked like a dictionary compared to the books I was reading. I know it should not have, but this set the tone for me for the rest of elementary school, and even followed me through my high school career. Because of that, I always felt behind everyone else. I was always struggling to keep up, even with the extra help classes. Continue reading “What Happens When You Let Other People Tell You Who You Are?”

Keeping up with Long Distance


Moving away from home involves a lot more than experiencing a new place, living with new people, and starting a new life. Everything is new but there is some aspect of the old that you want to keep, such as your friendships and relationships back at home. When I moved away I found it to be refreshing that I could easily drop those toxic relationships that were detrimental to my well-being, but it was worse that I could not see the people I truly cared about as often as I wanted to. It was definitely a difficult transition but I learned some tips on how to maintain those relationships when I was away.

  1. Communication

Simple enough, we’ve got to communicate. I know that it’s not the same as face to face but thank goodness we have Face Time and cell phones to communicate with each other. It’s such a blessing that we can call whenever the time is right. Our lives get pretty hectic, but setting aside the time to talk to those you care about is incredibly important.

  1. Share Moments

You don’t always have to set aside a time for a full on phone conversation. Take pictures of those moments that make you happy during your day and send them to your friends and family. Snapchat is perfect for this. Then, when your friends and family have the time, they can respond and enjoy that moment with you.

  1. Embrace Your Tears

It’s evident that when we miss people, we cry, and that’s okay. As long as you cope with the sadness in a healthy manner, this can only make your relationships stronger because it shows that you care. To cope, try joining a group on campus and having a support group. Go to the Counseling and Psychological services or call the Middle Earth Hotline. Write out your feelings or sing a sad song. This can only strengthen your relationships.

  1. Always Have Your Next Get-Together Planned

We have weekends and breaks during the semester for a reason, so we can go home! Mark it on your calendar and plan out who you are going to see as soon as you get home and what you are going to do with them. This can lessen that tensed feeling you get when you don’t see someone for a long period of time.

  1. Keep Yourself Busy

I know this may sound like a step back from maintaining a long distance relationship but when you’re busy and your people back at home are busy, there will be less worry on your shoulders when you send a text and don’t get a response right away. It can also keep you moving in that direction you are headed in, the reason you did move away.

The most amazing thing about long distance is that when you have this space between you and your circle of friends back at home, you begin to realize who is really there for you and who is not. You’ll begin to see who contributes to that effort you’re putting out to stay in contact and who isn’t. You may even find yourself not wanting to contribute to a previous relationship when you move away and meet new people. This change is good, because you are discovering who you are and what you want in your life. As for the people you’re missing right now, they want to see you succeed as much as you do. So stick it out for them and for you. You are a strong individual and you’ve got this down.

Please Note: The views of our student bloggers do not necessarily reflect the views of the UAlbany Advisement Services Center. These are their stories  – their voices.
About the Author:
Elizabeth B.
Class of 2018
Major: Communication
Minor: Art
Blog Theme: Homebody for Everybody