Don’t Panic

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Some times there’s a breakdown before there’s a break through. For me it seems as though this is always the case. As I write this blog from my bedroom, back home, my mind is consumed with a million and one different thoughts I’d like to share, and I’m puzzled by the best way to start. I guess I can begin by trying to make you understand… Continue reading “Don’t Panic”

The Chronicles of a Queer Afro-Latina

Fran Dom 3I grew up in an immigrant household. My parents emigrated from the Dominican Republic about twenty five years ago. Being that they both grew up in this country, they have a very specific way of viewing life. They brought their culture and traditions to this country and made it a point to immerse me and my brother in it. They raised us with the intentions of teaching us our history. My father used to make me read books on the formation and birth of the Dominican Republic. My mother made it a point to teach us how to read, write, and speak Spanish, the native language. They raised us listening to merengue, bachata and salsa, and taught us to dance. They sent us to visit our family members in the Dominican Republic every summer.  Continue reading “The Chronicles of a Queer Afro-Latina”

Dealing with Disappointment

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It is hard to believe that the things you carefully planned for in life don’t always turn out the way you wanted them too. Sometimes people spend days or weeks preparing for their plans and it does not follow through, as a result people lose hope, get discourage, feel anxious or angry and in drastic cases fall into depression. Sometimes we are so focused on the end goal that we forget to enjoy the journey, or we get too caught up in future plans and feel lost when it doesn’t become reality. These times are inevitable, but there are things that we can do to prevent ourselves from  falling into dark places. Continue reading “Dealing with Disappointment”

Compass for Success

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semester map.jpgThis morning, we tweeted a picture of the semester length planner, created by our partners in student success, the Educational Opportunities Program (EOP). This planner has been an academic life-saver to many of our students, and we strongly recommend getting one ASAP. We have them in our office. Please come and pick one up today!

Planning is just one part of being successful. Execution is the bread and butter of goal achievement,so what else do you need to be your best self this semester?

Several of our Peer Advisors, Project MyStory Ambassadors, and MyStory Bloggers have something to say about this.

I am going to highlight just a few of their posts, but I invite you to surf our blog and see what nuggets can work for you. 


Sam Broking 3Sam B., has a tool kit for starting well in her post, Starting the Semester Strong. She did not come up with this list by doing a Google search. As an athlete, she learned time management and study skills the hard way. She practices what she preaches and she has benefited from establishing better habits.  It is so easy to get off track.

Also check out From Zero Point Five to Hero by Melissa F. and Midterms, Finals, and Due Dates by Kate E. If you are working on your senior thesis, or are on the cusp of graduating, check out Phoebe’s blog series: Trials of Non-Traditional Students. It is filled with useful information for preparing for your next steps, right now!


Lee MLee’s entire blog is about how he learned to succeed at UAlbany. Lee had many things working against him, and academics were quite a struggle. Hence the title of his blog: C Average Student: Struggles on the Pathway to Success.

 

 


dsc_1252Jon writes about finding the best place to study. There are so many nooks and crannies on campus that you might miss if you fail to explore. For some of you, your room or suite, works like magic. You may have already
found your favorite tree, or spot in the library. Do what works for you. But if you want a fun exploration break, or need more ideas about where to study, check out this post: Where do You Study?


dsc_1255Taking care of yourself is as important as taking care of your academic responsibilities. Konya shares different strategies to de-stress and self-care in her post,  Top Ten Ways to De-stress. In Addition, Check out Liz B’s 3 Research Papers & 5 Final Exams: No Partridge and a Pear Tree for Me; Leo’s Advice from a Crazy Person;

 


I hope that these resource have been helpful. There is a Help Me! tab at the top of the page, that links to a lengthy list of academic and personal resources, available to all UAlbany students. If you do not know where to turn, feel free to come see the advisor-on-duty, available on a walk-in basis, 1pm-5pm, Monday -Friday in the Advisement Services Center.


Written by Rachel Moody,
Academic Advisor, Advisement Services Center

 

 

 

 

It’s All About the Love

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So Valentines Day is coming up quickly this week, and I hope you guys are just as excited as I am!  Valentine’s Day is actually one of my favorite holidays, and not just because it involves an excuse to binge on lots of good food and chocolate…although that is a plus! Ha ha!  But, it is also my favorite holiday for these three reasons below: Continue reading “It’s All About the Love”

Cleaning out my Closet

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I am out.
I am proud to be who I am. I am out to anyone who asks—except my mother. I want to come out to her. I am beyond ready to be out to her. However, I am terrified of what she’ll think of me. I am terrified that she will hate me, disown me, and want nothing to do with me.  I am terrified of the way she will see me after I tell her. I am terrified that she will just tolerate me, and not love me. Continue reading “Cleaning out my Closet”

It’s Your Loss and Mine

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Sometimes situations will hurt more than you would like to admit. That was the case for me in the beginning of my sophomore year of college. I was close with someone I lived with freshman year and then at the end of that school year, things just changed. We changed. That’s expected of you as you go through your first year in college. You are supposed to grow. But in this particular situation, we both just grew apart and grew closer to other people much similar to ourselves. And we never resolved any of the issues that was causing friction in our friendship. Continue reading “It’s Your Loss and Mine”

Still Fierce

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As the first week back at school came to an end, many students across the UAlbany campus were finally settling back into their familiar routines. Unfortunately,  I was not not one of those students. Last semester I spent a majority of my blogs giving advice and sharing stories of my experiences at college, but I want to go in a little bit of a different direction this semester. I am not exactly sure what direction to go in yet but what I am hoping for is to make this blog as personal as possible. A front row view of the inner mind of a stressed out, overworked, college student.
souzaI recently went through one of the hardest, most tragic, and most heartbreaking period of time in my life so far, and it has changed my outlook on so many aspects of life. Losing one of my best friends suddenly over winter break and the realization that nothing in life is certain, has finally shattered any of the remaining innocence left in me. “Bad things happen to good people” is now more than just a saying to me. You hear stories of terrible tragedies and your heart goes out to the people experiencing the heart break but you don’t fully understand that it can happen to you, that you could be the one asking why something so terrible has to happen, until it happens to you. Life is an oxymoron, both cruel and beautiful in many ways. And so at a period of time where I am so angry and so sad, I try my hardest for find the good in these series of event in my life. And so I will leave you with a quote that has helped me see the world as it really is:


Happiness is a journey, not a destination. for a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. but there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. at last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. this perspective has helped me to see there is no way to happiness. happiness is the way. so treasure every moment you have and remember that time waits for no one.” -Alfred D. Souza


Please Note: The views of our student bloggers do not necessarily reflect the views of the UAlbany Advisement Services Center. These are their stories and their voices.
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Melissa F.
Class of 2018
Majors: Spanish & Communication
Past Blog Theme:
Fierce & Freaked
Current Blog Theme:
Still Fierce 

Fransexual

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My name is Franshelis Calderon. I’m a junior here at UAlbany, and I identify as queer.

From the moment I arrived on the UAlbany campus in August of 2014, I knew I had a lot of self-exploring to do. It was finally my chance find myself independently, without the worry of what anyone else had to say. I had been waiting for this moment for, what felt like, a lifetime. Some of the things I discovered about myself during this time were that I loved to learn languages, Wings over Albany was my favorite place to order from, living with a random roommate was tough, and that I liked girls. Continue reading “Fransexual”

The Culture Clash

culture-clashWelcome to UAlbany! I know people say NYC is a melting pot but I personally believe UAlbany is even more so. No one really has the opportunity to stay within their own exclusive group, we are all together here. This is one of the things I was most excited for when I moved here for school. I grew up in a small county where diversity was not all that prevalent, and when there was some diversity, people stuck to their own groups and didn’t really explore outside of them. I was itching to explore though. I was kind of sick and tired of hearing the same streamlined thoughts over and over again.

summer-still-life-785231_960_720As soon as I moved to Albany, I was introduced to all sorts of different cultures. There were religions I had never heard of before or even bothered to explore. There were plenty more liberals and points of views than I was used to hearing. There was music I had never heard of before and dance moves I had only seen on the television. Right now, you must think I’m crazy and live under a rock, but I can promise you, this perspective is flipped around. When I met my new friends from the city, they were shocked at the  stories of how I lived. They wondered how I got by with minimal internet or no public transportation. They wondered why the closest dance club was a 45-minute drive away. To be honest, it was rather hilarious. Continue reading “The Culture Clash”