Motivation Plus Compassion – Advising Plus

17201377_1306486016107772_4566494713974496269_nI didn’t know what I wanted to do after high school. The one thing I really felt passionate about was fitness. I used to be overweight, and I looked for schools to help me with that. I found the World of Fitness Living-Learning Community, and it ended up changing my life. Not only have I grown as a leader, but I’ve also learned that I really do love helping people. Right now I’m working for University at Albany Campus Recreation at the SEFCU and Indian Quad gyms teaching Insanity on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. After I started Insanity, I realized that this is what I want to do for the rest of my life. Being in college and teaching and instructing all these different kinds of people, with different backgrounds, and different personalities, has enabled me to integrate them into my own being and knowledge. I’m able to talk to and relate to so many different people.

Fitness shouldn’t be about the aesthetic display of your physique, it should be a reflection of who you are. Take advantage of all the wellness centers that we have here, and all the free group instruction classes. It all comes down to intrinsic motivation. You should be able to wake up in the morning and say, “today is the day that I’m going to take charge of my health, take charge of my life, and take charge of me.”

Sophomore year, before I started Insanity, I was depressed, for a while. There’s a mentor I had, an advisor. Her name is Barbara Brown from Advising Plus. She is literally my second mom. She helped me realize that I wasn’t alone. She helped me stay on track. You cannot allow yourself to plunge deeper into that nasty abyss. Because once you get used to that feeling, it becomes second nature. I felt like I was weak to ask for help. But there’s absolutely nothing wrong with getting help. If I didn’t get help, I would probably still be where I was or even worse. That’s the scariest thing. It’s not about you. You always have at least one person who cares about you. You never want that person to see something bad happen to you. You don’t want that to be the very last memory that you leave here. You will never know your full potential unless you wake up and get started on something. Even if it’s just one goal a day, get started on it. Don’t leave things to chance. Because then you’ll never get anything done.

College is a time for discovering yourself and what gives you goosebumps, your passion. Learn to see things and live for the present, and learn to love yourself. Nowadays we’re not taught how to love ourselves. Where ever you are, whatever sort of state of mind that you’re at, it’s all temporary. Make sure that you leave your mark on earth. We live very short life spans. You want to be able to say “I actually made a difference.” That’s my goal. That’s really what I want everybody to aspire to.”

-Jayvon Evans
Hometown: Brooklyn, NY
Major: Communications
Minor: Business
Year: Senior

Photo by Naomi McPeters

— at University at Albany, SUNY.

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Words of Encouragement

logoWhen I first started this blog, I didn’t know how much of an impact it would have on people. As much as I had hoped for at least one person to be able to relate to my experiences and feel some comfort, I did not actually think I would get the feedback I have received.

The past few weeks have shown me that I am supported by so many people, such as co-workers, my current Res Life supervisor, other Pro-Staff members, one of my professors, my counselor at CAPS, family and friends.

My post from last week was actually inspired by a conversation my friend Felix and I had back in August. We both experienced grief the previous semester, and did not reach out to anyone, nor each other, and we had similar reasons why we didn’t. He shared my post from last week on Facebook, remembering our conversation on that topic and reminded me, “Just know you’re not alone.” Continue reading “Words of Encouragement”

A Little Help Can Go a Long Way

 

males-1002779_960_720.jpgBeing at the University has taught me a lot over the course of these last couple years.  It’s taught me the importance of diversity and inclusion, the power in speaking your mind, the strength that’s found in a community, the will to set and meet your goals, and the most crucial lesson of all, never be afraid to ask for help.  I say this to you guys now as a second semester senior at this University, with a very high tendency to run from anything that throws me in the spot light.

Nonetheless, I have been in plenty of scenarios were my own stubbornness and nerves have put me in more harmful situations that I would have been, if I had just taken the time to ask.   Continue reading “A Little Help Can Go a Long Way”

#Peer2Peer: When Everything is Due All at Once

dsc_1261Hey Everyone! My name is Danielle DeAcutis and I am a junior majoring in Criminal Justice and Sociology as well as Emergency Preparedness, Homeland Security, and Cybersecurity! Yes, you read that correctly, I’m triple majoring. I’m also a Peer Advisor in the Advisement Services Center, serve on the E-Board for the Albany Criminal Justice Association and I work part time. As you can tell, I have a lot of things going on most of the time. You might be wondering how I manage to do it all; balance schoolwork, responsibilities, a job and a social life. I’m going to be completely honest, it’s not easy all the time. There are days where I get overwhelmed by everything and struggle to keep up, but I’ve learned to make it work. Many students might feel like there’s no way to have it all without making sacrifices. I’m here to tell you that it’s certainly possible to be able to do it all. Here are some tips that I learned over the past few semesters that help attribute to being successful, while keeping stress at the minimum level. Continue reading “#Peer2Peer: When Everything is Due All at Once”

You’re Not a Burden

burden-1296754_960_720.png“You’re not a burden, Kerry.”

That’s what I tell myself every time I even consider venting to a friend, family member, or even, my boyfriend. Everyone always tells me, “I’m here for you”, “Call me if you need me”, and “You can always open up to me”. But when an opportunity to vent presents itself, I have a hard doing actually doing so. It’s not that I don’t believe people when they tell me those things, it’s that when things are going great for my loved ones, I don’t want to be a buzzkill and start talking about how sad I am that my father and two friends died within two years. I don’t want to tell them how stressed I am because I have not solidified my post-graduation plans yet. I guess the psychology major in me is worried about transferring emotions onto others. That’s probably the number one reason why I hesitate with venting to friends and family. I can’t help but feel like I would be overwhelming them with my problems. Continue reading “You’re Not a Burden”

Compass for Success

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semester map.jpgThis morning, we tweeted a picture of the semester length planner, created by our partners in student success, the Educational Opportunities Program (EOP). This planner has been an academic life-saver to many of our students, and we strongly recommend getting one ASAP. We have them in our office. Please come and pick one up today!

Planning is just one part of being successful. Execution is the bread and butter of goal achievement,so what else do you need to be your best self this semester?

Several of our Peer Advisors, Project MyStory Ambassadors, and MyStory Bloggers have something to say about this.

I am going to highlight just a few of their posts, but I invite you to surf our blog and see what nuggets can work for you. 


Sam Broking 3Sam B., has a tool kit for starting well in her post, Starting the Semester Strong. She did not come up with this list by doing a Google search. As an athlete, she learned time management and study skills the hard way. She practices what she preaches and she has benefited from establishing better habits.  It is so easy to get off track.

Also check out From Zero Point Five to Hero by Melissa F. and Midterms, Finals, and Due Dates by Kate E. If you are working on your senior thesis, or are on the cusp of graduating, check out Phoebe’s blog series: Trials of Non-Traditional Students. It is filled with useful information for preparing for your next steps, right now!


Lee MLee’s entire blog is about how he learned to succeed at UAlbany. Lee had many things working against him, and academics were quite a struggle. Hence the title of his blog: C Average Student: Struggles on the Pathway to Success.

 

 


dsc_1252Jon writes about finding the best place to study. There are so many nooks and crannies on campus that you might miss if you fail to explore. For some of you, your room or suite, works like magic. You may have already
found your favorite tree, or spot in the library. Do what works for you. But if you want a fun exploration break, or need more ideas about where to study, check out this post: Where do You Study?


dsc_1255Taking care of yourself is as important as taking care of your academic responsibilities. Konya shares different strategies to de-stress and self-care in her post,  Top Ten Ways to De-stress. In Addition, Check out Liz B’s 3 Research Papers & 5 Final Exams: No Partridge and a Pear Tree for Me; Leo’s Advice from a Crazy Person;

 


I hope that these resource have been helpful. There is a Help Me! tab at the top of the page, that links to a lengthy list of academic and personal resources, available to all UAlbany students. If you do not know where to turn, feel free to come see the advisor-on-duty, available on a walk-in basis, 1pm-5pm, Monday -Friday in the Advisement Services Center.


Written by Rachel Moody,
Academic Advisor, Advisement Services Center

 

 

 

 

Cleaning out my Closet

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I am out.
I am proud to be who I am. I am out to anyone who asks—except my mother. I want to come out to her. I am beyond ready to be out to her. However, I am terrified of what she’ll think of me. I am terrified that she will hate me, disown me, and want nothing to do with me.  I am terrified of the way she will see me after I tell her. I am terrified that she will just tolerate me, and not love me. Continue reading “Cleaning out my Closet”

Doing Too Much: A Thick Black Line

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This post is dedicated to the over dedicated, spread thin, hand-in-every-pot, yes-people. I feel your pain. I know what it is like to want to do everything and be everywhere. I know what it is like to have so many conflicting things that you want to do you wish you could clone yourself and be everywhere at once. I know what it is like to miss a bus and have it throw off your whole day. This post is for you all.

One major lesson I learned this semester was quality over quantity. It is much better to be awesome at a few things than be mediocre at a lot of things. Continue reading “Doing Too Much: A Thick Black Line”

Still Fierce

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As the first week back at school came to an end, many students across the UAlbany campus were finally settling back into their familiar routines. Unfortunately,  I was not not one of those students. Last semester I spent a majority of my blogs giving advice and sharing stories of my experiences at college, but I want to go in a little bit of a different direction this semester. I am not exactly sure what direction to go in yet but what I am hoping for is to make this blog as personal as possible. A front row view of the inner mind of a stressed out, overworked, college student.
souzaI recently went through one of the hardest, most tragic, and most heartbreaking period of time in my life so far, and it has changed my outlook on so many aspects of life. Losing one of my best friends suddenly over winter break and the realization that nothing in life is certain, has finally shattered any of the remaining innocence left in me. “Bad things happen to good people” is now more than just a saying to me. You hear stories of terrible tragedies and your heart goes out to the people experiencing the heart break but you don’t fully understand that it can happen to you, that you could be the one asking why something so terrible has to happen, until it happens to you. Life is an oxymoron, both cruel and beautiful in many ways. And so at a period of time where I am so angry and so sad, I try my hardest for find the good in these series of event in my life. And so I will leave you with a quote that has helped me see the world as it really is:


Happiness is a journey, not a destination. for a long time it seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. but there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. at last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life. this perspective has helped me to see there is no way to happiness. happiness is the way. so treasure every moment you have and remember that time waits for no one.” -Alfred D. Souza


Please Note: The views of our student bloggers do not necessarily reflect the views of the UAlbany Advisement Services Center. These are their stories and their voices.
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Melissa F.
Class of 2018
Majors: Spanish & Communication
Past Blog Theme:
Fierce & Freaked
Current Blog Theme:
Still Fierce 

Fransexual

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My name is Franshelis Calderon. I’m a junior here at UAlbany, and I identify as queer.

From the moment I arrived on the UAlbany campus in August of 2014, I knew I had a lot of self-exploring to do. It was finally my chance find myself independently, without the worry of what anyone else had to say. I had been waiting for this moment for, what felt like, a lifetime. Some of the things I discovered about myself during this time were that I loved to learn languages, Wings over Albany was my favorite place to order from, living with a random roommate was tough, and that I liked girls. Continue reading “Fransexual”